Monday, April 26, 2010

Dossier to Ethiopia!

This week is a big milestone in our adoption process!  Last week, we mailed off our completed Dossier (pile of paperwork) to Adoption Advocates International (our adoption agency) and it was all approved.  That means it will be sent to Ethiopia this week.  And THAT means we will now be added to the Waiting Families list!  As orphans are ready for adoption (that is, paperwork is completed which proves they are orphans, among other things), they are matched up with waiting families.  The night we mailed our Dossier, we went directly from the UPS store to S.A.S. Cupcakes then Coldstone Ice Cream for 1st & 2nd dinners.  Even Shep got to eat his fill of sicky sweet icing and, if you know me, you know what a big deal that is!  For those of you keeping track, it took us 3 months to complete our adoption paperwork.

Wednesday, April 21, 2010

What led you to adopt?

This is a beautiful blog entry on what led individual families (and singles) to adopt.  We can relate to so many of them.  God really is doing something powerful in this world in order to provide for His orphans, His children...

Saturday, April 17, 2010

Adoption "Gotcha Days"

If you're interested in seeing what Ethiopian orphanages look like and what it's like when adoptive families are first united with their new child/ren, go to and type in "Ethiopian gotcha day".  Be prepared to shed some happy tears - these videos beat any "feel good movie of the year"!

Tuesday, April 13, 2010

Prayer is the Work

I have recently been convicted about my lack of prayerfulness.  Lack of prayer is never good, but especially when we are planning for something as big as adoption, it seems downright reckless! 

I do my best praying while I'm doing things that keep my hands &/or feet busy - I can focus better.  But since my little constant companion has entered the picture, it's hard to pray without constant interruptions!  However, I must find a way.  Was it Oswald Chambers who said, "Prayer does not fit us for the work.  It is the work"?  Prayer really is so important. 

So, I have recommitted myself to praying... once again.  My hope is to pray while walking (Shep & I do this regularly), while showering (I do this regularly, too), and while driving at least once a day (also a daily thing). 

Also, Billy & I began praying together again last night.  We had gotten away from it over the last few months but I'm missing that spiritual connection between us.

Thank you, Lord, for a reminder to come back to you... once again.  Please help us stick to the plan.  Amen.

Saturday, April 10, 2010

God will provide

Since sharing our adoption plans with family and friends, at least 6 or 7 have admitted they, too, sense a call or desire to adopt but don't know how they would ever afford the adoption expenses.  We, too, had this concern when we started our adoption journey, but God continues to provide each payment just as it is needed (and we do not have savings - we do good just to stay out of debt!).

Other people (including me) would like to welcome orphans into their family but worry there would not be enough time, energy, love, or attention to go around.  This is something I struggle with daily, especially when I consider the possibility of adopting two children at once.  Yet, God continually reassures me (through the Bible, through people who know and love us, through families with many well-loved children, through the fact that Billy and I are on the same page, and through a peace that surpasses understanding) that He will equip us as we need it.

"Jesus replied, 'They do not need to go away.  You give them something to eat.'

'We have here only five loaves of bread and two fish,' they answered.

'Bring them here to me,' he said.  And he directed the people to sit down on the grass. 

Taking the five loaves and the two fish and looking up to heaven, he gave thanks and broke the loaves.  Then he gave them to the disciples, and the disciples gave them to the people.  They all ate and were satisfied, and the disciples picked up twelve basketfuls of broken pieces that were left over. 

The number of those who ate was about five thousand men, besides women and children."

(Matthew 14:16-21)

Jehovah Jireh, Provider God, thank you for the resources you will equip us with to raise our children.  You are so good to us.  We love you.  Amen.

Wednesday, April 7, 2010

Process Notes

There are often new thoughts that come to mind as we continue on our journey to adopt.  I welcome these thoughts because I know God is slowly preparing us for the challenges and blessings we will experience as adoptive parents, much like the 9 mth wait during pregnancy prepared us to parents Shep.  Some recent
"process thoughts":

Pro: no breastfeeding!  Don't get me wrong, I have loved nursing Shep (most of the time) & will do it again if we (hopefully) have another biological child, but, as any nursing mother knows, nursing is really a love-hate relationship.  I will not miss some aspects of nursing, and this is something I look forward to with our adopted children.

Con:  no more blending in!  At the Chick-Fil-A playground today, I couldn't help but notice the one lone black child.  It is sad but true, we do not live in a racially diverse area.  No longer will I be able to sit blissfully blending in with everyone else when I take my children out to play.  Undoubtedly, our transracial family will have to learn to tolerate staring, awkward questions, and whispering.  This is unfortunate but we will make the best of it, and hopefully, teach some onlookers about love even without saying a word.